Birth Mother M. L. Wallace, Albany, New York

I've written many times about Natalie Ann who was born February 21, 1958 in Albany, New York. After a very dedicated search, Natalie has now found her birth mother (who is now deceased) and her twin brothers who were born in Albany, NY, in 1956. Natalie Ann and her twin brothers were born at Brady Hospital.

Here is a new twist to the story which results in yet another search. She also found a brother and a sister born after her, who were looking for her in spite of the fact that they had been told she was half of a set of stillborn twins. Now they all are seeking the missing twin. They are said to have been girls. However, they were also said to have been stillborn; that might suggest we can't trust or rely on hearsay and the missing twin may be male or female.

There is also one more missing child, gender unknown, born in New York in 1960. No other information is available on this child.

Let me give you some information about the mother of these children, before you begin to think ill of her.Aside from the fact that birth control was not readily available, this mother's only fault is that she fell head over heels in love, deeply in love with a man who, in spite of repeated promises to commit to her, never could.

She became pregnant with the first set of twins who were born in 1956. The stigma associated with unwed women having babies would have dictated that she place the boys for adoption. However, when she found out she was carrying twins she kept the boys, not wanting them to be separated from one another.

Then Natalie Ann was born on 02/21/1958 and the story goes that twin girls were born to the mother on that date. They were said to have been stillborn. Since the mother is deceased, we can't ask how or where this story originated. We believe she may have told this story, perhaps as some sort of denial; it almost doesn't matter now. Non-identifying information tells us that the mother cared for Natalie for several months after her birth, but in that non-id there is neither mention of a twin nor mention of other siblings which now have been found...all but the twin plus one born sometime in 1960 in the State of New York and probably in the Albany area.

M. L. Wallace, God Rest Her Soul, finally gave up on this man and found a loving, caring man to marry. They had children, all of whom she could keep and were happily married for 30 years. All her children know about the others and all hope to find the missing twin born February, 1958 and the missing child born May, 1960.

Please contact me if you can help.
Peace to you and those you love,
Aunt Patty

Adoptees Seek - Birth Mothers Seek

Adoptees and birth mothers or birth families -- if you recognize any of the information, please contact me.

We are hoping to find a male adoptee, born 03/05/1986. He was born in either Staten Island or St. Vincent's Hospital. The private adoption was handled by an attorney in Brooklyn, NY. His Grandmother would love to find him. She believes he was named Christopher but that has probably changed. That is also March 5, 1986 and 3/5/1986 for the web crawlers. Contact lovesdonna2@yahoo.com.

A caucasian male adoptee, born 11/05/1962 in Ogdensburg, NY is searching for any birth family. He has three siblings he would like to find. His birth mother is reported to be of French and Native American descent. That's November 5, 1962 and 11/5/1962 for the web crawlers. (G)

A female caucasian adoptee, born 03/04/1971, would like to find her birth family. She was born in Valhalla or Mt. Pleasant, NY At Valhalla Hospital and adopted through Westchester Family Services in Port Chester, NY. March 4, 1971 3/4/1971 (G)

Natalie Ann, born 02/21/1958 at Brady Hospital in Albany, NY is still searching for her birth mother and twin brothers. February 21, 1958 2/21/1958 (NYAdoptees.com)

We are looking for a caucasian male adoptee, born 02/28/1989 in Rochester, NY at St. Mary's Hospital. Birth mother does not want to disrupt his life; just wants to know he is okay and is open to a relationship if he is willing. February 28, 1989 2/28/1989 (G)

Emily is searching for her birth son, born 05/16/1975 in Rochester, NY. His adoption was handled by Catholic Family Center. May 16, 1975 5/16/1975 (NYAdoptees.com)

A female adoptee, born Infant Hernandez, 06/26/1974 at Long Island College Hospital in Brooklyn, NY. Adoption handled privately; birth mother's maiden name begins with "Willi" -- could be Willis, Williams etc. June 24, 1974 6/26/1974 (NYAdoptees.com)

Jeff, born 04/18/1965, Buffalo, NY is still searching for any birth family. Jeff, whose middle or last name may have been Alan is a Late Discovery Adoptee; he did not learn that he was adopted until he was over 40 years of age.* April 18, 1975 4/18/1975 (NYAdoptees.com)

* For those birth parents who have always been told not to search but who have always hoped their child would search, bear in mind the adoptee may not even know he/she was adopted.

If you have any information about those listed above, please contact me at lovesdonna2@yahoo.com. Your information will be treated confidentially.

Peace to you and those you love,
Aunt Patty

Birth Mothers - Where Are You?

Natalie Ann, born 02/21/1958, Brady Hospital in Albany, NY would love to meet her birth mother and her twin brothers she had before Natalie Ann was born. We know how difficult and painful it was for you to give her up. You came from Iowa after your mother died to live with your brother in Albany. It wasn't easy for you and we know that. You have a daughter, a son-in-law and grandsons who are waiting to meet you and give you a hug. Where are you?

Jeffrey Alan, born 04/18/1965, Buffalo, NY - we don't know if Alan was his middle name or his last name. Well, Mom, we're pretty sure it was Buffalo but the county doesn't have the best record keeping system, they can't find his paperwork (and I'm being very kind here)so if you've tried to find him, you've probably had about as much luck as he's had trying to find you. Jeff is what is known as a Late Discovery Adoptee - that means he lived his life (until about a year ago) never knowing he was adopted. He needed a passport to cross the border into Canada, asked for his birth certificate, one question lead to another and at age 42 he found out the truth. For all birth mothers who think "if my child wanted to find me, they'd be looking" know that some don't look because they never knew and those who do look hit brick walls every step of the way. Mom, where are you?

Mom, I'm Jennifer, born in Booth Memorial, Buffalo, New York on 4/21/1968.
I was told you were 16 years old at the time of my birth. I was adopted in Ithaca, New York. My adoption was handled by Tompkins County. I'm happy but there is that empty space in my heart that only you can fill. Mom, where are you?

James Edward Lowe, born in Swedish Hospital, Englewood, CO (near Denver, Colorado) on 11/11/1957 says he would love to reunite with his birth family. He lost his adoptive mother about a year ago and his adoptive father before that. His name is David now, he lives in NY State with his wife, children and grandchildren. David's mom, where are you?

And here's more grown adults who are calling out Mom, where are you?
Arlene Koch, now Barbara Anne, born 12/26/1953 at Our Lady of Mercy, NY
Melinda Elizabeth, now Michele Ann, born 07/20/1958 at Albany Medical Center, NY
Amy or Anne Marie, now Renee, born 08/05/1969 in Albion, NY
Dennis, now Jeffrey, born 10/23/1952 in Mineola, NY
Tabitha, still Tabitha, born 11/17/1981 in Rome, NY
Baby Girl Clark, now Peggy Sue, born 04/04/1960 in Rome, NY
Lisa Jean, born 09/12/1968 in Rochester, NY - your mom and birth sister are looking for you; are you in Florida?
Baby girl who is Hispanic or perhaps Puerto Rican, born 05/13/1972 in Lackawanna, NY

You can find hundreds of NY Adoptees and birth parents at this free search and support group: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/nyadoptees/

If you have information that will help any of these people with their search, please contact me.
I am a search angel - I will not ask you for money.

Peace to you and those you love,
Aunt Patty

ISO Birth Family

ISO Birth Family is a subject you will see in a google search if you look. Here are some birth families we are looking for and if you can help us, we will be grateful.

Natalie Ann, born Brady Hospital in Albany, New York on 2/21/1958. Mom and twin brothers, where are you? I have a wonderful family I'd love you to meet.

David, born James Edward Lowe in Swedish Hospital, Englewood, CO (near Denver, Colorado) on 11/11/1957 would love to connect with his birth family. David now lives in NY State with his wife, children and grandchildren.

Jeff, born in Iowa Lutheran Hospital, Des Moines, IA on 7/30/1961. Jeff may not be and probably is not his birth name. He was adopted by a dentist and his wife and raised in Kansas. He now lives in New York City.

Jennifer, born in Booth Memorial, Buffalo, New York on 4/21/1968 would love to reunite with her birth mom. She was told her birth mother was 16 years old at the time of her birth. She was adopted in Ithaca, New York. Her adoption was handled by
Tompkins County.

On the flip side of the coin are many birth parents, children taken right from their arms by those in control of their lives at the time.

Emily would love to reunite with her son, born 5/16/1975 in Rochester, New York.

Is Anyone Looking For Natalie Ann

Being a search angel can be either totally rewarding or extremely frustrating depending upon the day and what's going on. Today, it's been frustrating.

Natalie Ann, (the name given her by her birth mother)was born at Brady Hospital in Albany, NY pretty much during a blizzard in February of 1958. There were many women having babies at that time and it was difficult, according to stories we've heard, to get doctors to and from the hospital. One mom (not Natalie Ann's) giving birth on the very same day, related how women were given some drugs to slow their labor down because they were short staffed.

Natalie Ann is looking for her birth mother and twin brothers. She's not angry or upset that she was given up...after all, raising twin boys who were about two years old had to be difficult enough. She understands how hard it would have been for her mother to keep her...Natalie Ann has children of her own now, so she can relate.

It's tough to know how accurate the information we got really is. I guess, since it's all we have to go on, we have to assume it's the truth. So acting on that, we set out to find a woman who was about 21 in 1958 and we don't even know her name.

We certainly are touched by her situation. She was orphaned when she was just sixteen and having no other relatives she could live with, she left Iowa and went to live with her brother in Albany, NY. We don't know the brother's name either, but he was married and may have been a few years older than Natalie Ann's mother.

From what we've been told, the brother's wife was not thrilled to have her mother living with them. She did finish high school, wanted to be a nursery school teacher and probably got lots of practice and had to have a great deal of patience in raising twin boys.

We've tried Classmates hoping to find pictures of young women who resemble Natalie Ann. She's even scanned hundreds of photos from old yearbooks, hoping to see a face that she will recognize as someone who looks like her. And, while she not much of a political gal, she lobbied in Albany for open adoption records. Finding her mother and her twin brothers is important to her; otherwise she is reading the book of her own life starting with Chapter 2. Chapter 1 is totally missing and that missing chapter leaves a hole in the heart of every adoptee I've ever met.

Natalie Ann (who is not named Natalie Ann today) does not want to disrupt anyone's life and she isn't looking for money. She is happily married, has a good job, a nice home and family and she is an artist. She wonders who she looks like; she wonders if she shares her talent with her mother and in what other ways they may be alike.

She's basically healthy but having her own children knows that family medical history is an important thing to have. She doesn't have it but hopes one day she will.

We've been busy looking for twin boys who may have graduated in the Albany area, knowing full well that they could be anywhere in the world by now. They were born in either 1955 or 1956.

So, stop and think a minute. Maybe you will become another angel who is willing to help. We are looking for a young woman who delivered twin boys in Albany, NY and then a baby girl about two years later in 1958. Her parents lived in Iowa, where we believe Natalie Ann's mother was born. Her father died of a heart attack when he was only 41 years old and her mother died when she was only 16 years old, leaving her an orphan. That's when (or soon after) Natalie Ann's mother went to live in Albany with her brother and his wife.

If this sounds familiar or rings a bell with you, please get in contact with me.
I'm Aunt Patty; I'm not related, I'm just a search angel hoping to reunite families.

Last year I reunited my sister-in-law with her daughter who had been named Donna at birth, hence my screen name lovesdonna2@yahoo.com.

Peace to you and those you love,
Patty

Looking for - Read on!

I came here to write about my new search and to update my last blog and I will in just a minute.

I sat here, reflecting on what I'd just read about Iowa records being forever sealed and it just torqued me off. I wanted to title this blog "How to stay a child forever" and then thought better of it. But the truth is, adoptees (in most states) are considered children forever. The adoption laws were written as though they would never grow up and become adults, with certain guaranteed rights that most of us take forgranted. We know who we are and where we came from. We can put together our medical history and our ancestral history. We can easily get a passport because we can produce a birth certificate - something few adoptees can do.

Sealed...something we do to food to keep it safe to eat...not something we do to a person's identity. Amended birth certificates - sounds like something that should come with a Cabbage Patch Doll - not real, just take it, use it, and don't ask what appened before it was issued...like pre-adoption moments never existed.

If I'm frustrated, imagine how the adoptee feels!!! Ok, on to updates:

Joanne (see last blog in August) and her family have been reuinted with one of the two sisters...Rose Marie is still missing as of this post and Andy's time is running out. If anyone knows a woman named Rose Marie, from Canada, please read the blog and get the details. You just might be the one to grant a dying man his last wish. And folks, if you think this isn't all that important, try hugging a tombstone. Many have done it and it's just not the same as holding a real live person and being able to say "I love you" one time.

My new search is for Jeff's birth family members. He was born on July 30, 1961, 07/30/1961, 07/30/61, 07-30-1961, 7-30-61 (just trying to keep the web crawlers happy) at Iowa Lutheran Hospital in Des Moines, IA. He was raised in a suburb of Kansas City, Kansas called Prairie Village and now lives in NY.

Like most adoptees, he knows very little. His mother, dark hair and eyes, was 16 and in high school. His father was tall and also in high school. The physician, Dr. Robert Hoffman, is deceased. His nurse/wife, Margaret, claims to have destroyed all the doctor's records upon his death.

I came to know Jeff when I reunited his adopted step sister (my niece) with her birthmom, my sister-in-law. My neice was named Donna at birth, hence my screen name lovesdonna2 - her name isn't Donna anymore but that's really of no moment. They had their first face to face in NYC a week or so ago and that's where my sister-in-law met Jeff.

One more quick update: Cherie (born Natalie Ann) on 02/21/1958 in Albany, NY at Brady Hospital is still looking for her birth mother and twin brothers. Her birth mother was orphaned at age 16, moved from Iowa to Albany to live with her brother.

If anything rings a bell with you or strikes a chord, please contact me.
Peace to you and those you love,
Aunt Patty

A Race Against Time - Help Reunite A Family

I would like to invite as many people as possible to help -- especially those who are skilled at finding living folks in Canada (although we don't know that these 2 sisters still live in Canada). In a nutshell, a terminally ill man -- Andy Brouwer -- would like to meet two of his sisters before it's too late. He and seven of his siblings were put up for adoption by child care services back in 1962. Six of them have found each other, but with Andy's pancreatic cancer, they're racing against time to find their last two siblings so they can have a reunion with all present. Please help if you can --either by researching or spreading the word.

Read this story now and please help all you can.
http://immigrantships.net/joanne.html

Peace to you and those you love,
Patty