Imagine this. You are a young unmarried woman, deeply in love with a man who swears he loves you and has promised, any number of times, to marry you. You discover you are pregnant. Due to your circumstances, the fact that you are not married to the baby's father, you feel ashamed that you are expecting, you don't have enough money or resources to support a baby, you plan to give this child up for adoption.
As the pregnancy progresses, you are told you are carrying twins. You rethink the adoption plan, fearing that your babies will be separated at birth and will not be raised in the same loving home you were assured they would have.
Against all odds, because we know there is no help or encouragement for single mothers who wish to keep their children, (and there was even less help back in 1958) you leave the hospital with your twin sons, determined to do whatever you must to keep your family together.
The father of the boys is occasionally on the scene; he sees you and the boys, he helps out when he can but still his promises of marriage remain empty.
The twins are only a few months old when you discover you are pregnant again. You know you are not able to support and care for another child and you return to the same agency you used before. Once again, they assure you this baby will be placed in a loving home and will be given all the things you cannot possibly provide for it. You feel pressured. It's not an easy or a comfortable decision, but you tell yourself you will try to keep an open mind about it; after all, everyone is telling you it's in the best interest of the child.
A blizzard of record proportion hits Albany mid February and you worry about getting to the hospital if you go into labor since you are due any day now. Over the next two days, city crews manage to clear the streets and on the 21st day of February you arrive safely at the hospital to deliver this baby.
The stages of your labor are recorded and hospital records do not indicate that you were given anything for pain. Several hours later, the baby is born at precisely 6:09; you probably never heard her cry because precisely at 6:09 you are given demerol and ether which knocks you out. You wake up, well over an hour later, and are told you delivered twin baby girls, both stillborn. You ask to see them and you are denied. You ask for paperwork, death certificates, stillborn birth certificates whatever is provided in cases like this and you are told there is no paperwork for you to see.
Now imagine this: An adoptee is searching for her birth mother. She knows little, which is typical of the information given to adoptees, but she does know she was born on February 21, 1958 to an unmarried woman who already had twin boys about two years of age. She was told she was born with a positional club foot, corrected with massage. She is also told her mother struggled with her surrender and did not turn her over to the authorities until she was several months old, when she finally signed the relinquishment papers.
The adoptee's search is diligent; she and I team up with other search angels. She photographs yearbooks, every woman who even vaguely fits the description of her mother since she was told her mother relocated to Albany from another state to finish high school after her own mother's death. The adoptee is told she is most likely, based on the information they received from her mother, the result of a one night stand, a blind date her mother was talking into.
I could not possibly count the number of places her search information was posted on the internet, the number of city directories searched, the number of obits searched, the number of emails sent to potential classmates and phone calls that were made and the list goes on. Finally, there is a break through. Her twin brothers are located.
Fast forward to today: The adoptee is reunited with her twin brothers via phone and email; a face to face is in the works. Sadly her birth mother passed away a few years ago, but not before this kind and loving woman moved back to her home state, met and married wonderful man who would be totally dedicated to her, her children and their children for thirty years.
The adoptee also learns she has an even bigger family; it's not just the twin boys but also two other children adopted out before her mother's marriage, and two half siblings from the marriage. DNA testing was done and the adoptee is the full sister to the twins and two others, one male, one female; all of whom had found each other a few years ago.
She learns that her mother had wondered all her life if her twin girls were really stillborn. It would be easy for a reader to judge her; please don't. She never lied about her past and her deep love for the man who fathered her children; she was open and honest with all her children, which helped them to find one another, well almost - there is, according to the stories the mother shared before her death, one more child born sometime in 1960 and of course, the other "stillborn" twin girl.
My own outrage: This mother lived all her life being told her twin daughters were stillborn. This adoptee has searched much of her adult life hoping to find her mother. I know this goes on. It has happened to other mothers and other adoptees. And yet, I am outraged! I will continue to be outraged!
Why is a mother knocked out with ether and demerol at the precise moment her baby is born if the physician on the receiving end of that baby is an honorable physician?
This woman's paper trail (same agency) would clearly indicate that she changed her mind once before when she delivered twins, fearing they would be immediately separated. It would also indicate that this woman was gutsy enough (remember we are talking about 1958 here) to initiate a paternity action against the father and win!!!
How long have the adoptive parents been standing in line, waiting for this woman to give birth and how much money did they pay to stand in line? Is there a birth certificate? Does it have the adoptive mother's name on it?
Where is the other twin? Was it really stillborn? Was it really a girl? If she's living, does she even know she is adopted? Nothing in the adoptee's hospital records (which she has since been able to obtain) indicates a positional club foot; maybe in all the bullshit flying around that day while the mother was knocked out,
it was the other twin who had the club foot? Once someone starts playing God and spitting out lies between their teeth (which BTW is something God does not do), I imagine it's difficult to keep it all straight.
I realize this didn't happen to every woman who gave birth in Albany, New York in 1958, but it happened to one and that's one too many.
Call me livid; call me angry and you would be right! We are looking for someone born on February 21, 1958 in Albany, New York. We have no idea how to find you but if that's your date and place of birth, and maybe you've always felt like you didn't quite fit into your family, there may be a reason. We have more information than is posted here. I know TRUTH can be a scary thing. Upon finding the truth, it isn't always honorable, right and just. Still, I prefer to be a seeker of the truth; I don't like walking in the dark, amongst lies, at all.
Peace to you all and those you love,
Aunt Patty
Wednesday, March 11, 2009
Monday, March 2, 2009
The Adoption Story Board
I'd like to invite every member of the Adoption Triad to participate in The Adoption Story Board. It is your opportunity to put a human face on a situation, an injustice that has existed far too long.
It is an opportunity for everyone to read the words of those touched by adoption in some way and to see their faces. We all look at faces; birth parents and adoptees alike have walked down the street or stood in line at the grocery store wondering if the person near them once belonged to them.
The reader of the Adoption Story Board can see the face of a child, now an adult, that someone had to surrender to adoption and read about their search; they can see the face of a birth mother who has searched for her child for many years and seeing that face will help to erase the stigma associated with unwed mothers and the mindset that so many people had and still have about women who give up their children. I hope it will encourage more birth mothers to search as they read her story.
Birth fathers may write their stories too. Not all of them walked away and left the mother to carry the burden alone. We know many of them were never allowed to participate in the decision; some were never told about the child until years later.
Each person who adds their story to the Adoption Story Board is given an entire webpage to tell their story. It can be as long or as short as you wish. In addition to sharing your search information, I hope some will also talk about the brick walls you have hit along the way and what it feels like to wonder about your heritage, your medical background, where you came from and who you look like. Do you have siblings, grandparents and aunts and uncles? I encourage everyone to include photos - those are the faces people need to see. It is your story and you will not have to share the webpage with anyone else. It can be edited if you find someone you are searching for and are still looking for others.
As a search angel, I have read through thousands of database entries. I have to admit that I am hard pressed to always remember where I saw pieces on information that may be relevant to a search I'm working on now. I do, however, remember a story and where I read it. I remember a face and I always remember the vivid pictures that someone's words create in my mind.
For those who may not have been touched by adoption, it gives them an opportunity to know those who have and to see their faces. These are the folks who phone their congressmen and senators when legislation is in committee; their phone calls and letters can make a difference. They have never had to tell a physician they have no medical background information and they have never been without their original birth certificate. It is an opportunity to share knowledge, to teach.
Readers will also have a chance to see the faces of adoptive parents too. There are many adoptive parents who have helped and supported their grown children in their search. The have seen first hand that in the end, it didn't result in them being set aside and it didn't result in anyone taking their place. Such stories can be an encouragement to other adoptive parents.
I also don't mind if some of you wish to get political as long as you include your basic search information. Very few states support adoptee's rights and it's time the average person hears about the hoops we have to jump through just to get minimal non-identifying information and the medical issues we have to face when knowledge before hand might have prevented them.
Reunion stories are welcome too. Someone's successful search will hold keys that others may well be able to use. It will also give others HOPE!
The Adoption Story Board is not intended to replace any of the other wonderful databases that we use on a regular basis as they are critical and important to all searches. There is no mailing list associated with it and it is not a search and support group. We have many wonderful groups and I hope those who write their stories will include the places where they have registered so that others who are considering a search may join.
The Adoption Story Board is an enhancement, a tool we can all use in seeking the same goal - reuniting our families. It's a place for information and pictures to be located on one page; a place where a human face and the words they write will stick in someone's mind. A reader will know who you are looking for, possibly what you've been through if you wish to write about that and what you look like. They might even think you look like someone they know who gave up a son or daughter years ago and is afraid to search, afraid of being rejected.
The Adoption Story Board is a branch of my genealogy web site which has been on the internet for 11 years and attracts thousands of visitors each day. I anticipate the Adoption Story Board will also get some of that traffic and that can translate into more exposure for everyone's search. Anyone will be able to search it by date or place. They don't have to join a group or a mailing list, they can just look and read. And, it's free!
As to the specifics, you write your story and send it to me along with photos. I have set up an email account for this on aol because it is easier to retrieve pictures using aol. Please send the photos as an attachment in their original size and I will resize them to fit your page. I will format the story and send you the link to it before it is published on the internet. You will have a chance to view the page before it goes public so you can make any changes you want to make.
If you blog or post anywhere on the internet, you are free to use the link to draw people to your story. I will use keywords specific to your search; the keywords are hidden in the html formatting behind the story so no one can see them but the search engines will pick up those keywords within a couple of weeks.
If you are worried about spam, I can take precautions to help eliminate that just as we have done on the genealogy side of the site. Your email address is not visible but is a direct link off your name. If someone clicks on your name, it opens up an email to you. If you want to post confidentially, that link can be set to open an email to me and and correspondence will be forwarded to you.
If you would like to participate, all you need to do is:
Please write your story in notepad not MSWord or you can write it in the email.
Send your story and your photos to Aunt Patty
Send me your contact information in the same email.
For your protection, I will not publish birth certificate numbers, phone numbers or addresses. Your contact information is confidential; just a way for me to reach you and it will never be given out to anyone without your written permission.
This project is in its infancy. I am open to all suggestions and your ideas. I have two stories posted so you can see what your story can look like. You can find them at these two urls:
Birgitta Sjoholm (this story captions the adoptee's birth
name at her request)
Cherie's Continuing Search
If you need more information, please contact me.
Peace to you and those you love,
Aunt Patty
It is an opportunity for everyone to read the words of those touched by adoption in some way and to see their faces. We all look at faces; birth parents and adoptees alike have walked down the street or stood in line at the grocery store wondering if the person near them once belonged to them.
The reader of the Adoption Story Board can see the face of a child, now an adult, that someone had to surrender to adoption and read about their search; they can see the face of a birth mother who has searched for her child for many years and seeing that face will help to erase the stigma associated with unwed mothers and the mindset that so many people had and still have about women who give up their children. I hope it will encourage more birth mothers to search as they read her story.
Birth fathers may write their stories too. Not all of them walked away and left the mother to carry the burden alone. We know many of them were never allowed to participate in the decision; some were never told about the child until years later.
Each person who adds their story to the Adoption Story Board is given an entire webpage to tell their story. It can be as long or as short as you wish. In addition to sharing your search information, I hope some will also talk about the brick walls you have hit along the way and what it feels like to wonder about your heritage, your medical background, where you came from and who you look like. Do you have siblings, grandparents and aunts and uncles? I encourage everyone to include photos - those are the faces people need to see. It is your story and you will not have to share the webpage with anyone else. It can be edited if you find someone you are searching for and are still looking for others.
As a search angel, I have read through thousands of database entries. I have to admit that I am hard pressed to always remember where I saw pieces on information that may be relevant to a search I'm working on now. I do, however, remember a story and where I read it. I remember a face and I always remember the vivid pictures that someone's words create in my mind.
For those who may not have been touched by adoption, it gives them an opportunity to know those who have and to see their faces. These are the folks who phone their congressmen and senators when legislation is in committee; their phone calls and letters can make a difference. They have never had to tell a physician they have no medical background information and they have never been without their original birth certificate. It is an opportunity to share knowledge, to teach.
Readers will also have a chance to see the faces of adoptive parents too. There are many adoptive parents who have helped and supported their grown children in their search. The have seen first hand that in the end, it didn't result in them being set aside and it didn't result in anyone taking their place. Such stories can be an encouragement to other adoptive parents.
I also don't mind if some of you wish to get political as long as you include your basic search information. Very few states support adoptee's rights and it's time the average person hears about the hoops we have to jump through just to get minimal non-identifying information and the medical issues we have to face when knowledge before hand might have prevented them.
Reunion stories are welcome too. Someone's successful search will hold keys that others may well be able to use. It will also give others HOPE!
The Adoption Story Board is not intended to replace any of the other wonderful databases that we use on a regular basis as they are critical and important to all searches. There is no mailing list associated with it and it is not a search and support group. We have many wonderful groups and I hope those who write their stories will include the places where they have registered so that others who are considering a search may join.
The Adoption Story Board is an enhancement, a tool we can all use in seeking the same goal - reuniting our families. It's a place for information and pictures to be located on one page; a place where a human face and the words they write will stick in someone's mind. A reader will know who you are looking for, possibly what you've been through if you wish to write about that and what you look like. They might even think you look like someone they know who gave up a son or daughter years ago and is afraid to search, afraid of being rejected.
The Adoption Story Board is a branch of my genealogy web site which has been on the internet for 11 years and attracts thousands of visitors each day. I anticipate the Adoption Story Board will also get some of that traffic and that can translate into more exposure for everyone's search. Anyone will be able to search it by date or place. They don't have to join a group or a mailing list, they can just look and read. And, it's free!
As to the specifics, you write your story and send it to me along with photos. I have set up an email account for this on aol because it is easier to retrieve pictures using aol. Please send the photos as an attachment in their original size and I will resize them to fit your page. I will format the story and send you the link to it before it is published on the internet. You will have a chance to view the page before it goes public so you can make any changes you want to make.
If you blog or post anywhere on the internet, you are free to use the link to draw people to your story. I will use keywords specific to your search; the keywords are hidden in the html formatting behind the story so no one can see them but the search engines will pick up those keywords within a couple of weeks.
If you are worried about spam, I can take precautions to help eliminate that just as we have done on the genealogy side of the site. Your email address is not visible but is a direct link off your name. If someone clicks on your name, it opens up an email to you. If you want to post confidentially, that link can be set to open an email to me and and correspondence will be forwarded to you.
If you would like to participate, all you need to do is:
Please write your story in notepad not MSWord or you can write it in the email.
Send your story and your photos to Aunt Patty
Send me your contact information in the same email.
For your protection, I will not publish birth certificate numbers, phone numbers or addresses. Your contact information is confidential; just a way for me to reach you and it will never be given out to anyone without your written permission.
This project is in its infancy. I am open to all suggestions and your ideas. I have two stories posted so you can see what your story can look like. You can find them at these two urls:
Birgitta Sjoholm (this story captions the adoptee's birth
name at her request)
Cherie's Continuing Search
If you need more information, please contact me.
Peace to you and those you love,
Aunt Patty
Sunday, February 15, 2009
Birth Mother M. L. Wallace, Albany, New York
I've written many times about Natalie Ann who was born February 21, 1958 in Albany, New York. After a very dedicated search, Natalie has now found her birth mother (who is now deceased) and her twin brothers who were born in Albany, NY, in 1956. Natalie Ann and her twin brothers were born at Brady Hospital.
Here is a new twist to the story which results in yet another search. She also found a brother and a sister born after her, who were looking for her in spite of the fact that they had been told she was half of a set of stillborn twins. Now they all are seeking the missing twin. They are said to have been girls. However, they were also said to have been stillborn; that might suggest we can't trust or rely on hearsay and the missing twin may be male or female.
There is also one more missing child, gender unknown, born in New York in 1960. No other information is available on this child.
Let me give you some information about the mother of these children, before you begin to think ill of her.Aside from the fact that birth control was not readily available, this mother's only fault is that she fell head over heels in love, deeply in love with a man who, in spite of repeated promises to commit to her, never could.
She became pregnant with the first set of twins who were born in 1956. The stigma associated with unwed women having babies would have dictated that she place the boys for adoption. However, when she found out she was carrying twins she kept the boys, not wanting them to be separated from one another.
Then Natalie Ann was born on 02/21/1958 and the story goes that twin girls were born to the mother on that date. They were said to have been stillborn. Since the mother is deceased, we can't ask how or where this story originated. We believe she may have told this story, perhaps as some sort of denial; it almost doesn't matter now. Non-identifying information tells us that the mother cared for Natalie for several months after her birth, but in that non-id there is neither mention of a twin nor mention of other siblings which now have been found...all but the twin plus one born sometime in 1960 in the State of New York and probably in the Albany area.
M. L. Wallace, God Rest Her Soul, finally gave up on this man and found a loving, caring man to marry. They had children, all of whom she could keep and were happily married for 30 years. All her children know about the others and all hope to find the missing twin born February, 1958 and the missing child born May, 1960.
Please contact me if you can help.
Peace to you and those you love,
Aunt Patty
Here is a new twist to the story which results in yet another search. She also found a brother and a sister born after her, who were looking for her in spite of the fact that they had been told she was half of a set of stillborn twins. Now they all are seeking the missing twin. They are said to have been girls. However, they were also said to have been stillborn; that might suggest we can't trust or rely on hearsay and the missing twin may be male or female.
There is also one more missing child, gender unknown, born in New York in 1960. No other information is available on this child.
Let me give you some information about the mother of these children, before you begin to think ill of her.Aside from the fact that birth control was not readily available, this mother's only fault is that she fell head over heels in love, deeply in love with a man who, in spite of repeated promises to commit to her, never could.
She became pregnant with the first set of twins who were born in 1956. The stigma associated with unwed women having babies would have dictated that she place the boys for adoption. However, when she found out she was carrying twins she kept the boys, not wanting them to be separated from one another.
Then Natalie Ann was born on 02/21/1958 and the story goes that twin girls were born to the mother on that date. They were said to have been stillborn. Since the mother is deceased, we can't ask how or where this story originated. We believe she may have told this story, perhaps as some sort of denial; it almost doesn't matter now. Non-identifying information tells us that the mother cared for Natalie for several months after her birth, but in that non-id there is neither mention of a twin nor mention of other siblings which now have been found...all but the twin plus one born sometime in 1960 in the State of New York and probably in the Albany area.
M. L. Wallace, God Rest Her Soul, finally gave up on this man and found a loving, caring man to marry. They had children, all of whom she could keep and were happily married for 30 years. All her children know about the others and all hope to find the missing twin born February, 1958 and the missing child born May, 1960.
Please contact me if you can help.
Peace to you and those you love,
Aunt Patty
Sunday, October 12, 2008
Adoptees Seek - Birth Mothers Seek
Adoptees and birth mothers or birth families -- if you recognize any of the information, please contact me.
We are hoping to find a male adoptee, born 03/05/1986. He was born in either Staten Island or St. Vincent's Hospital. The private adoption was handled by an attorney in Brooklyn, NY. His Grandmother would love to find him. She believes he was named Christopher but that has probably changed. That is also March 5, 1986 and 3/5/1986 for the web crawlers. Contact lovesdonna2@yahoo.com.
We are hoping to find a male adoptee, born 03/05/1986. He was born in either Staten Island or St. Vincent's Hospital. The private adoption was handled by an attorney in Brooklyn, NY. His Grandmother would love to find him. She believes he was named Christopher but that has probably changed. That is also March 5, 1986 and 3/5/1986 for the web crawlers. Contact lovesdonna2@yahoo.com.
A caucasian male adoptee, born 11/05/1962 in Ogdensburg, NY is searching for any birth family. He has three siblings he would like to find. His birth mother is reported to be of French and Native American descent. That's November 5, 1962 and 11/5/1962 for the web crawlers. (G)
A female caucasian adoptee, born 03/04/1971, would like to find her birth family. She was born in Valhalla or Mt. Pleasant, NY At Valhalla Hospital and adopted through Westchester Family Services in Port Chester, NY. March 4, 1971 3/4/1971 (G)
Natalie Ann, born 02/21/1958 at Brady Hospital in Albany, NY is still searching for her birth mother and twin brothers. February 21, 1958 2/21/1958 (NYAdoptees.com)
We are looking for a caucasian male adoptee, born 02/28/1989 in Rochester, NY at St. Mary's Hospital. Birth mother does not want to disrupt his life; just wants to know he is okay and is open to a relationship if he is willing. February 28, 1989 2/28/1989 (G)
Emily is searching for her birth son, born 05/16/1975 in Rochester, NY. His adoption was handled by Catholic Family Center. May 16, 1975 5/16/1975 (NYAdoptees.com)
A female adoptee, born Infant Hernandez, 06/26/1974 at Long Island College Hospital in Brooklyn, NY. Adoption handled privately; birth mother's maiden name begins with "Willi" -- could be Willis, Williams etc. June 24, 1974 6/26/1974 (NYAdoptees.com)
Jeff, born 04/18/1965, Buffalo, NY is still searching for any birth family. Jeff, whose middle or last name may have been Alan is a Late Discovery Adoptee; he did not learn that he was adopted until he was over 40 years of age.* April 18, 1975 4/18/1975 (NYAdoptees.com)
* For those birth parents who have always been told not to search but who have always hoped their child would search, bear in mind the adoptee may not even know he/she was adopted.
If you have any information about those listed above, please contact me at lovesdonna2@yahoo.com. Your information will be treated confidentially.
Peace to you and those you love,
Aunt Patty
Friday, July 18, 2008
Birth Mothers - Where Are You?
Natalie Ann, born 02/21/1958, Brady Hospital in Albany, NY would love to meet her birth mother and her twin brothers she had before Natalie Ann was born. We know how difficult and painful it was for you to give her up. You came from Iowa after your mother died to live with your brother in Albany. It wasn't easy for you and we know that. You have a daughter, a son-in-law and grandsons who are waiting to meet you and give you a hug. Where are you?
Jeffrey Alan, born 04/18/1965, Buffalo, NY - we don't know if Alan was his middle name or his last name. Well, Mom, we're pretty sure it was Buffalo but the county doesn't have the best record keeping system, they can't find his paperwork (and I'm being very kind here)so if you've tried to find him, you've probably had about as much luck as he's had trying to find you. Jeff is what is known as a Late Discovery Adoptee - that means he lived his life (until about a year ago) never knowing he was adopted. He needed a passport to cross the border into Canada, asked for his birth certificate, one question lead to another and at age 42 he found out the truth. For all birth mothers who think "if my child wanted to find me, they'd be looking" know that some don't look because they never knew and those who do look hit brick walls every step of the way. Mom, where are you?
Mom, I'm Jennifer, born in Booth Memorial, Buffalo, New York on 4/21/1968.
I was told you were 16 years old at the time of my birth. I was adopted in Ithaca, New York. My adoption was handled by Tompkins County. I'm happy but there is that empty space in my heart that only you can fill. Mom, where are you?
James Edward Lowe, born in Swedish Hospital, Englewood, CO (near Denver, Colorado) on 11/11/1957 says he would love to reunite with his birth family. He lost his adoptive mother about a year ago and his adoptive father before that. His name is David now, he lives in NY State with his wife, children and grandchildren. David's mom, where are you?
And here's more grown adults who are calling out Mom, where are you?
Arlene Koch, now Barbara Anne, born 12/26/1953 at Our Lady of Mercy, NY
Melinda Elizabeth, now Michele Ann, born 07/20/1958 at Albany Medical Center, NY
Amy or Anne Marie, now Renee, born 08/05/1969 in Albion, NY
Dennis, now Jeffrey, born 10/23/1952 in Mineola, NY
Tabitha, still Tabitha, born 11/17/1981 in Rome, NY
Baby Girl Clark, now Peggy Sue, born 04/04/1960 in Rome, NY
Lisa Jean, born 09/12/1968 in Rochester, NY - your mom and birth sister are looking for you; are you in Florida?
Baby girl who is Hispanic or perhaps Puerto Rican, born 05/13/1972 in Lackawanna, NY
You can find hundreds of NY Adoptees and birth parents at this free search and support group: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/nyadoptees/
If you have information that will help any of these people with their search, please contact me.
I am a search angel - I will not ask you for money.
Peace to you and those you love,
Aunt Patty
Jeffrey Alan, born 04/18/1965, Buffalo, NY - we don't know if Alan was his middle name or his last name. Well, Mom, we're pretty sure it was Buffalo but the county doesn't have the best record keeping system, they can't find his paperwork (and I'm being very kind here)so if you've tried to find him, you've probably had about as much luck as he's had trying to find you. Jeff is what is known as a Late Discovery Adoptee - that means he lived his life (until about a year ago) never knowing he was adopted. He needed a passport to cross the border into Canada, asked for his birth certificate, one question lead to another and at age 42 he found out the truth. For all birth mothers who think "if my child wanted to find me, they'd be looking" know that some don't look because they never knew and those who do look hit brick walls every step of the way. Mom, where are you?
Mom, I'm Jennifer, born in Booth Memorial, Buffalo, New York on 4/21/1968.
I was told you were 16 years old at the time of my birth. I was adopted in Ithaca, New York. My adoption was handled by Tompkins County. I'm happy but there is that empty space in my heart that only you can fill. Mom, where are you?
James Edward Lowe, born in Swedish Hospital, Englewood, CO (near Denver, Colorado) on 11/11/1957 says he would love to reunite with his birth family. He lost his adoptive mother about a year ago and his adoptive father before that. His name is David now, he lives in NY State with his wife, children and grandchildren. David's mom, where are you?
And here's more grown adults who are calling out Mom, where are you?
Arlene Koch, now Barbara Anne, born 12/26/1953 at Our Lady of Mercy, NY
Melinda Elizabeth, now Michele Ann, born 07/20/1958 at Albany Medical Center, NY
Amy or Anne Marie, now Renee, born 08/05/1969 in Albion, NY
Dennis, now Jeffrey, born 10/23/1952 in Mineola, NY
Tabitha, still Tabitha, born 11/17/1981 in Rome, NY
Baby Girl Clark, now Peggy Sue, born 04/04/1960 in Rome, NY
Lisa Jean, born 09/12/1968 in Rochester, NY - your mom and birth sister are looking for you; are you in Florida?
Baby girl who is Hispanic or perhaps Puerto Rican, born 05/13/1972 in Lackawanna, NY
You can find hundreds of NY Adoptees and birth parents at this free search and support group: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/nyadoptees/
If you have information that will help any of these people with their search, please contact me.
I am a search angel - I will not ask you for money.
Peace to you and those you love,
Aunt Patty
Thursday, April 17, 2008
ISO Birth Family
ISO Birth Family is a subject you will see in a google search if you look. Here are some birth families we are looking for and if you can help us, we will be grateful.
Natalie Ann, born Brady Hospital in Albany, New York on 2/21/1958. Mom and twin brothers, where are you? I have a wonderful family I'd love you to meet.
David, born James Edward Lowe in Swedish Hospital, Englewood, CO (near Denver, Colorado) on 11/11/1957 would love to connect with his birth family. David now lives in NY State with his wife, children and grandchildren.
Jeff, born in Iowa Lutheran Hospital, Des Moines, IA on 7/30/1961. Jeff may not be and probably is not his birth name. He was adopted by a dentist and his wife and raised in Kansas. He now lives in New York City.
Jennifer, born in Booth Memorial, Buffalo, New York on 4/21/1968 would love to reunite with her birth mom. She was told her birth mother was 16 years old at the time of her birth. She was adopted in Ithaca, New York. Her adoption was handled by
Tompkins County.
On the flip side of the coin are many birth parents, children taken right from their arms by those in control of their lives at the time.
Emily would love to reunite with her son, born 5/16/1975 in Rochester, New York.
Natalie Ann, born Brady Hospital in Albany, New York on 2/21/1958. Mom and twin brothers, where are you? I have a wonderful family I'd love you to meet.
David, born James Edward Lowe in Swedish Hospital, Englewood, CO (near Denver, Colorado) on 11/11/1957 would love to connect with his birth family. David now lives in NY State with his wife, children and grandchildren.
Jeff, born in Iowa Lutheran Hospital, Des Moines, IA on 7/30/1961. Jeff may not be and probably is not his birth name. He was adopted by a dentist and his wife and raised in Kansas. He now lives in New York City.
Jennifer, born in Booth Memorial, Buffalo, New York on 4/21/1968 would love to reunite with her birth mom. She was told her birth mother was 16 years old at the time of her birth. She was adopted in Ithaca, New York. Her adoption was handled by
Tompkins County.
On the flip side of the coin are many birth parents, children taken right from their arms by those in control of their lives at the time.
Emily would love to reunite with her son, born 5/16/1975 in Rochester, New York.
Wednesday, March 5, 2008
Is Anyone Looking For Natalie Ann
Being a search angel can be either totally rewarding or extremely frustrating depending upon the day and what's going on. Today, it's been frustrating.
Natalie Ann, (the name given her by her birth mother)was born at Brady Hospital in Albany, NY pretty much during a blizzard in February of 1958. There were many women having babies at that time and it was difficult, according to stories we've heard, to get doctors to and from the hospital. One mom (not Natalie Ann's) giving birth on the very same day, related how women were given some drugs to slow their labor down because they were short staffed.
Natalie Ann is looking for her birth mother and twin brothers. She's not angry or upset that she was given up...after all, raising twin boys who were about two years old had to be difficult enough. She understands how hard it would have been for her mother to keep her...Natalie Ann has children of her own now, so she can relate.
It's tough to know how accurate the information we got really is. I guess, since it's all we have to go on, we have to assume it's the truth. So acting on that, we set out to find a woman who was about 21 in 1958 and we don't even know her name.
We certainly are touched by her situation. She was orphaned when she was just sixteen and having no other relatives she could live with, she left Iowa and went to live with her brother in Albany, NY. We don't know the brother's name either, but he was married and may have been a few years older than Natalie Ann's mother.
From what we've been told, the brother's wife was not thrilled to have her mother living with them. She did finish high school, wanted to be a nursery school teacher and probably got lots of practice and had to have a great deal of patience in raising twin boys.
We've tried Classmates hoping to find pictures of young women who resemble Natalie Ann. She's even scanned hundreds of photos from old yearbooks, hoping to see a face that she will recognize as someone who looks like her. And, while she not much of a political gal, she lobbied in Albany for open adoption records. Finding her mother and her twin brothers is important to her; otherwise she is reading the book of her own life starting with Chapter 2. Chapter 1 is totally missing and that missing chapter leaves a hole in the heart of every adoptee I've ever met.
Natalie Ann (who is not named Natalie Ann today) does not want to disrupt anyone's life and she isn't looking for money. She is happily married, has a good job, a nice home and family and she is an artist. She wonders who she looks like; she wonders if she shares her talent with her mother and in what other ways they may be alike.
She's basically healthy but having her own children knows that family medical history is an important thing to have. She doesn't have it but hopes one day she will.
We've been busy looking for twin boys who may have graduated in the Albany area, knowing full well that they could be anywhere in the world by now. They were born in either 1955 or 1956.
So, stop and think a minute. Maybe you will become another angel who is willing to help. We are looking for a young woman who delivered twin boys in Albany, NY and then a baby girl about two years later in 1958. Her parents lived in Iowa, where we believe Natalie Ann's mother was born. Her father died of a heart attack when he was only 41 years old and her mother died when she was only 16 years old, leaving her an orphan. That's when (or soon after) Natalie Ann's mother went to live in Albany with her brother and his wife.
If this sounds familiar or rings a bell with you, please get in contact with me.
I'm Aunt Patty; I'm not related, I'm just a search angel hoping to reunite families.
Last year I reunited my sister-in-law with her daughter who had been named Donna at birth, hence my screen name lovesdonna2@yahoo.com.
Peace to you and those you love,
Patty
Natalie Ann, (the name given her by her birth mother)was born at Brady Hospital in Albany, NY pretty much during a blizzard in February of 1958. There were many women having babies at that time and it was difficult, according to stories we've heard, to get doctors to and from the hospital. One mom (not Natalie Ann's) giving birth on the very same day, related how women were given some drugs to slow their labor down because they were short staffed.
Natalie Ann is looking for her birth mother and twin brothers. She's not angry or upset that she was given up...after all, raising twin boys who were about two years old had to be difficult enough. She understands how hard it would have been for her mother to keep her...Natalie Ann has children of her own now, so she can relate.
It's tough to know how accurate the information we got really is. I guess, since it's all we have to go on, we have to assume it's the truth. So acting on that, we set out to find a woman who was about 21 in 1958 and we don't even know her name.
We certainly are touched by her situation. She was orphaned when she was just sixteen and having no other relatives she could live with, she left Iowa and went to live with her brother in Albany, NY. We don't know the brother's name either, but he was married and may have been a few years older than Natalie Ann's mother.
From what we've been told, the brother's wife was not thrilled to have her mother living with them. She did finish high school, wanted to be a nursery school teacher and probably got lots of practice and had to have a great deal of patience in raising twin boys.
We've tried Classmates hoping to find pictures of young women who resemble Natalie Ann. She's even scanned hundreds of photos from old yearbooks, hoping to see a face that she will recognize as someone who looks like her. And, while she not much of a political gal, she lobbied in Albany for open adoption records. Finding her mother and her twin brothers is important to her; otherwise she is reading the book of her own life starting with Chapter 2. Chapter 1 is totally missing and that missing chapter leaves a hole in the heart of every adoptee I've ever met.
Natalie Ann (who is not named Natalie Ann today) does not want to disrupt anyone's life and she isn't looking for money. She is happily married, has a good job, a nice home and family and she is an artist. She wonders who she looks like; she wonders if she shares her talent with her mother and in what other ways they may be alike.
She's basically healthy but having her own children knows that family medical history is an important thing to have. She doesn't have it but hopes one day she will.
We've been busy looking for twin boys who may have graduated in the Albany area, knowing full well that they could be anywhere in the world by now. They were born in either 1955 or 1956.
So, stop and think a minute. Maybe you will become another angel who is willing to help. We are looking for a young woman who delivered twin boys in Albany, NY and then a baby girl about two years later in 1958. Her parents lived in Iowa, where we believe Natalie Ann's mother was born. Her father died of a heart attack when he was only 41 years old and her mother died when she was only 16 years old, leaving her an orphan. That's when (or soon after) Natalie Ann's mother went to live in Albany with her brother and his wife.
If this sounds familiar or rings a bell with you, please get in contact with me.
I'm Aunt Patty; I'm not related, I'm just a search angel hoping to reunite families.
Last year I reunited my sister-in-law with her daughter who had been named Donna at birth, hence my screen name lovesdonna2@yahoo.com.
Peace to you and those you love,
Patty
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